Monday, December 22, 2008
Crying it Out
is it child neglect to put your babies down at 5:30p.m. (because they fall asleep in your arms) then again at 6 (after rocking and falling asleep) then again at 6:30 (after a bedtime story) then again at 7 (more rocking) then between 7:30 and 8:42 let them scream their heads off in their beds because they aren't hungry, they ARE tired, and you just don't know what to do?
We go through these periods where H&L go down so easy, bottle, rock, bam, asleep all is right with the world and then all of a sudden we will go through a week or two when the children cannot me consoled. I wonder if they are about to cut teeth because not matter how many bottles we offer their hands are in their mouths but they do not want pacifiers.
Tonight is the first night I said, "Let's let 'em cry it out" and it is... painful. Lily cries so hard she gags and Harper does this cooing trembling cry that breaks my heart. Everything I have read says that when a baby reaches 4 months they have to learn to soothe themselves and put themselves to sleep and to run and pick up every time she cries is only teaching her that crying works. We have the sleeping through the night thing down. ONCE they are out they are our for 10-12 hours. It is the getting to sleep that seems hard... NO... it is staying alseep once you put them in the bed. They can be OUT COLD in my arms but the minute they touch the mattress the eyes POP open and screaming competition begins.
Tonight I put them in bed for the last time at 8:30pm and let them cry it out. It is 8:44 and they are quiet but the crying went on for about 2 hours. (No it is NOT colic, I am sure).