Sunday, March 16, 2008

Decisions decisions...

So Nick and are finding out the sexes of the babies on Thursday. I don't really have a certain feeling of what they are but my prediction is girl girl, Wednesday July 16th, 12 pounds 10 ounces combined. We have a handful of names we have been saying that could be possibilities but lately they just aren't charming me. I don't want to name our children names that I don't just love. I would rather use a non-family name that Nick and I love than a family name that is so so. In other words I have no idea what we will name the babies. I guess it will be easier when we know what they are on Thursday to start narrowing it down. I can say that I love non sex names though - like names that can be for a boy or girl. Thank goodness Nick is a fair and patient man and understands/tolerates my tendency to go back and forth. Oh, if and when pregnant people share possible baby names with you... even if you have to fake it, just smile and say "that's nice" or "ok." Unless the woman asks for your opinion, don't give it. One of my biggest pet peeves has been telling someone a name I like and that person giving a look of disapproval or even worse, saying the name two or three times with a question mark at the end. Or, and this one really irritates me, "Hmmm?" You would think I announced that I am getting a sex change with some of the reactions I have gotten.

Our time in Memphis was nice. It started out rough though. 5 hours in the back seat put a lot of pressure on my sciatic nerve and I had a rough time on the way up. I ended up calling my doctor because the pain, vomiting, and lightheadedness worried me but after stretching out and walking a bit I was fine. I have to brag and say that I think I did really well the rest of the trip. I stayed up late, ate out every meal, walked several miles every day, shared a bathroom with 3 other people, all while being five months pregnant! I am not big on itineraries and sleep is essential but we managed to get by. I also didn't get to spend as much down time with Mere as I would have liked but overall the trip went well. Plus, she will be coming home this weekend for Easter and we have a dinner planned with the family on Saturday night which will make up for lost time. She could have taken off from work a day but she wants to save as much time as she can for time off in July - thanks Mere!

Today I am doing laundry and watching The Real Housewives of NYC on Bravo... not because I like the show but like you can't stop staring at a car crash I can't change the channel. I just can't imagine people that live this way. No jobs. Million dollar 3 bedroom condos, all designer clothes and shoes, Martinis with every meal, no spending limits on their credit cards, summer houses in the Hamptons, and full time nannies to raise their kids. It blows my mind.

Tomorrow ends my Spring Break and I go back to work. 9 more weeks until summer vacation. Then 9 weeks after that, I'll be a mother. I don't really operate on the trimester timeline... it's easier for me to think of it in terms of time off from work. Then I plan on taking 10-12 weeks off from work to raise the babies at home before sending them to Daycare :( I am not putting God in a box and disbelieving in the possibility of being a "stay at home mom." Maybe His plan is entirely different from mine and Nick's plans and He has it worked out that I don't have to go back to work at all... if that IS the case that would be amazing. However, I am at peace with going back to work after the first 12 weeks. It will be interesting to see how it all pans out. There are so many unanswered questions I have right now about this whole parenting thing.

I started reading Eckart Tolle's A New Earth in February and have been slacking lately. Also, the young adult's Bible study at church started the Invitation to the Old Testament. I also have a Francine Rivers book I got for Christmas I have been meaning to start as well at Into the Wild here at the house that I have been wanting to read. I have seen the movie twice and am still fascinated by it - and the soundtrack.

It is already 5:30 p.m. Sigh - I really need to go to the grocery store...


Jason said... names !!

Mary Tyler S. said...

I agree on the Housewives of NYC....sheesh it IS like watching a train wreck. But I can't help but stayed glued to it.

Just name the babes what you feel comfortable yelling.
Matter of fact, just when you think you've decided, go outside, and scream the names as loud as you can. If you don't laugh-then you've got them!

We will be at the beach this week, but you better be dialing my number when you find out! Can't wait :)

Nick M. said...

I still think the names Darth Vader & Ghengis Khan are viable options.

Don't stress love, the names will come as natural and smoothly as everything else. Especially once we know what they are.

Love YOU!!

The Bean said...

I am with you on the looks people give when you tell them names you're thinking of. Especially if it's something you came up with and they don't like it. I do however like getting people's honest opinions when I ask though because maybe they are thinking something I haven't thought of and maybe down the road would have wished I had thought of before naming a baby. Did that make sense?

We didn't actually decide on Baby Bean's name until about an hour after she was born. Strange huh? We had a list of names we would throw out about every 2 weeks and come up with a new list but never got it right until the end.

Stephanie said...

I agree - don't name them anything you don't love. Silas is our last favorite boy name. If we ever have another boy, someone else will have to name him, because we've used up all the names we like.

We have gotten flak over baby names, too. Who cares. They are your babies - you get to name them. Also, once they get here, that will be their names and because people will love your babies, they will grow to love their names.

I didn't put my name in the pool, but my guess is two boys. And I really love the names you had in mind for two boys, though you may have changed your mind by now.

Liz said...

I think the audacity most people have when it comes to other people's pregnancy is pretty unreal. Why people think its ok to frown on a soon-to-be mother's names for her babies, or criticize birthing methods, or decisions to stay home or work outside of the home, whatever it is - really, its not their decision. It sounds like you have already shown a lot of patience. Keep at it girl. :) I can't wait till its Thursday for you (because Thurday is already over here!) and we can all know what to look forward to! :)

Shea said...

I didn't know you have a blog! I love reading them! You look great! And, I hear ya on the baby names. I HATED telling people the names I was considering. People are so rude! Oh, and my all time favorite is the "are you having twins?" comments I got in the third trimester! One girl even followed up with an "are you sure?" Yeah, thanks. Well, can't wait to hear what you are having!