Saturday, February 16, 2008

Saturday's News

This morning Nick and I had breakfast with my friend Celeste & her husband Sha, their son John Clifton, and Cel's mother Ruth. It is always so good to see them and reminisce. We laugh for hours each time we visit. I told Nick on the way back home how neat it is to have "lifetime friends." Cel and I went to school from Kindergarten through high school graduation and kept in touch through college. I was at her wedding and also at her house the week her first born came into the world. Now she is looking forward to our babies coming in July and our kids being friends. By the way, I ate 4 pieces of deer meat sausage and it was awesome.

It is just neat to me the many different "categories" that friends come in. Childhood friends, church friends, college friends, work friends, couples' friends, random friends, his friends, my friends, our friends, friends' friends...etc. You get the idea. And I'll say this too: it is always refreshing when one of your own friends marries someone you can consider your friend OR you can be friends with one of your spouse's friend's spouse. Lately I have been doing a lot more with my and our friends and it is really nice; contrary to the personality test I took online last week that I felt was pretty said that I don't make friends often or easily but the friends I do make understand that I am extremely loyal to them and expect the same loyalty in return. It also said that once my trust is broken it is very hard to get it back and that I rarely forget when I have been wronged. I do see a lot of truth to both of these statements about me but I feel like that makes me sound really mean. I don't think I am mean... I think just most of the time I am really lazy. For example, if I don't call you back it's not because I don't want to...I'm just lazy. Or, if I don't make it to every coffee date or dinner, it's not that I don't want to see you...I'm just lazy. But I am aware of my laziness and have gotten a lot better...LJM I think can speak for that. And of course there are the the occasional days where it is just nice to be ALONE. But I think being alone means you can be friends with yourself. I you need to spend time with yourself every once in a while. Friendships, like any relationship, or plant, need nurturing or they will die.

Speaking of new friends...I am 15 weeks pregnant today! Nick and I visited our friend Dr. MP on Thursday for our Feb. checkup and everything was fine. Our babies' heartbeats are in the 150's and in the 140's. Wives' tales would say that this might be boy/girl but we won't know for sure until March 20th. The next ultrasound will be that morning at 10:50 followed by a checkup. Nick and I opted to not have the babies tested for Downs Syndrome. The doctor gave us the choice but I had already thought about whether or not to go through with it and decided I didn't want to do it. Nick agreed. What good would it do to know that you have a 1/200 chance of have a child with DS or a 1/300 chance of having a child with DS? Abortion is not an option we would ever consider and there is absolutely nothing you can do to reverse or prepare for DS. One girl at work just freaked when I told her we weren't going to do all that because she was like, "WHAT!? I'd want to know! I wouldn't want to have to wait ALL that time and then have to be surprised that something was wrong with my baby!!!" That is just one of those situations where you just say, "Hmm, well, we don't want to know." Maybe it is because I work with mentally and physically challenged kids everyday that I understand the reality of disorders in kids. Of course you pray for healthy babies but healthy babies are just not gaurenteed unfortunately. But you can imagine this conversation with a coworker:

"So how was your checkup?"
"Oh, well, we had to wait like 2 hours because the doctor was behind schedule...he had two deliveries today. But we did finally get back there and they just weighed me and we listened to the heartbeats.."
"AWWW! That's SO awesome!!!"
"Yea, and then we got to see them on the ultrasound..."
"OH! I want to see - do you have them with you!?!?"
"Yea, hang on...then we had this blood work done and it said that the baby might have Down Syndrome but we don't know for sure..."
" (GASP) Oh my gaaa, wuh- when will you know!!?"
"I guess not till they are born, but it'll be fine whatever happens happens..."
"Yea, but, oh my ga, my aunt had a Down Syndrome child and it was the hardest thing in the world...she was like so depressed about it but he was really cute but then he died."


(I think I'm supposed to write BUT I DIGRESS here...)

Nick is at a soccer game with Corey right now and I am watching this week's episodes of Dr. Phil and Oprah. I need to be cleaning and doing laundry but I think I would just rather watch TV, snack, and nap. Isn't that what I am supposed to be doing before the babies get here since according to the world "You'll never sleep again! Say goodbye to alone time!!!"

One more thing, Ooooooon Tuesday night???? I think? Nick and I were watching TV and I think I felt two flutters. It was too low to be my stomach and plus I hadn't eaten in like 2 hours anyway. It was very quick and it came and went but it felt like a bubble popped in the place where the babies are and then it felt like another bubble popped. I have tried paying close attention since then but haven't had any other feelings. In the second trimester now, still craving chocolate milk like its my job, and finally over the cold I had all week.

Not checking for typos, eer, sorry.
Have a nice weekend!


Nick M. said...

Hooray for my Love FINALLY posting a blog again. I am now back from the soccer game and now we are chilling 'Saturday style'...Heck yes!!

Jason said...

Good stuff where is your list of "things"

The Bean said...

AMEN! I am so excited to read you again. Don't worry, I'm lazy all the time. And we didn't have Baby Bean tested for DS either. Didn't seem necessary. And I drank 4-6 glasses of whole milk every day for the first 5 months of my pregnancy.

Tricia said...

Hi. I found your blog because I have google automatically search for articles/blog posts about Down syndrome. I say, good choice not checking. Chances are everything is A-ok and the babies do not have DS. But even if they/one of them do/does, it's not the end of the world. As an SLP you know that! :)

My daughter who does have DS is the bees knees in our book.

Take care!


jackie said...

I'm sooooo happy to see you posting again!!! I have missed you terribly! You, by the way, look gorgeous. I miss your face! I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner. I was in Charlotte this weekend for a managers' meeting. I am actually off this weekend (unusual but true). Luke has to work mornings on Saturday and Sunday, but I would love to see y'all. Call me!

Mary Tyler S. said...

I love this post. Legel, you need to write a book on your -ism's. Cause I love em. and you. :)

YOUR nyler hehe